My Dad has been resisting moving into a care home for years. He couldn’t let go of the world he created, even if it was less and less comfortable to be in. Last summer he couldn’t look after himself anymore. We, his daughters, took the tough decision to overrule his judgment. My youngest sister moved …
Recently I read an interview with a business woman who said that the best thing she ever did for herself was to let go of perfectionism. She was right. Self-oriented perfectionism can be debilitating. As a recovering perfectionist, I know this well. Wikipedia describes the condition as ‘a personality trait characterised by a person’s striving …
Last weekend I visited my step-grandchild, a delightful little boy of eight months old. We don’t see much of each other because we live far apart, so it took him several hours to get used to the new people in the house. He was gentle and adorable, sure, but I remember very distinctly the moment …
How a look can change your life in one second flat. Read More »
Letting go of negativity not only makes you happier, it actually helps you live longer too. And healthier! This is the principle my practice is based upon, and here’s yet another piece of scientific proof. Elisabeth Blackburn, winner of the Nobel Prize for Medicine in 2009, has found that your mental patterns could be harming …
More scientific proof that negative thoughts can kill you, from a Nobel Prize winner! Read More »
Were you one of those children who always did their homework on time? Whose writing is neat; who kept their bedroom tidy? Were, or, are you perhaps still a little shy? Did you always want to help your parents? If so, you’re in danger! Source: The Dangers of the Good Child | The Book of …
Have you always been a Good Child? High time to get BAD! Read More »
Isn’t being vulnerable totally scary, and to be avoided at all times? That’s what I thought too for a long time. But guess what: it actually makes you strong. Wholehearted, as Brené Brown says in this delightful talk. So go on: be the master of your fate, the captain of your soul. Be vulnerable.
So simple, yet so powerful! Watch this inspiring TED talk by Amy Cuddy.
Like the person who wrote this article, I too was one of the people who didn’t see it coming. I now know there is a way to prevent burnout. If you lose interest in your work, you feel that you’re not being appreciated, you have less and less energy, and feel like withdrawing, it’s red …
Dr. Iacoboni studies the brain cells that make us love sports, say yes to persuasive salespeople and empathize with others. They are what shape our cultures, what keep traditions alive. These same mirror neurons are also what makes therapy work -if applied in the right way. Source: Neuroscientist Marco Iacoboni on how mirror neurons teach …
UCLA’s Neuroscientist Marco Iacoboni explains how mirror neurons teach us to be human Read More »
Here is one of my heroes and sources of inspiration and learning, Stephen Porges, on Polyvagal Theory, healing trauma, and and his own spiritual journey. It is complex material, but fascinating! Source: Stephen Porges on Polyvagal Theory and Healing Trauma
Ever since ancient times philosophers and scientists have been contemplating the question whether or not our minds can influence matter. Modern science has finally provided us with an answer. Excitingly enough, it is yes! Over the course of 28 years Princeton University has tested whether human consciousness, or focused attention can cause physical change. In …
Deze spreuk, die sinds mijn kindertijd in mijn geheugen gegrift staat, roept associaties op met moeite, met worsteling. Alles zit tegen, maar als ik ‘het’ maar genoeg wil, breek ik ijzer met handen. Ondanks alle obstakels en hindernissen bereik ik mijn doel. Luctor et emergo! (Ja, Zeeuwse moeder.) Ik worstel en kom boven! Dat moge …
