Why smart, capable people still feel held back You’re driven, insightful, and capable. Your days are full, your mind is sharp, and yet something feels… stuck. You’ve ticked the boxes, achieved the milestones, and still you hesitate. You overthink, second-guess, over-deliver, or freeze just when you’re about to cross a threshold that should feel like […]
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Here’s a new way to regain momentum when you feel stuck or overwhelmed. Do you know that feeling like when you’re navigating too many challenges? Perhaps it’s a nagging sense of dissatisfaction, overthinking, or doubt about where you’re headed, because you’re being pulled in too many directions. Often, too, others don’t seem to understand. What
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The hardest lesson to learn is the one that you don’t see When I moved to my new home city of Brussels, I decided to reinvent myself. I tried to fit in, but I was unpleasantly surprised. That was several years ago. Only recently have I understood the deeper meaning of that experience. It was
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Last week, I have not been so well – sick in bed – and the reason is… no, it’s not my 4-year old (step)granddaughter in the picture above. But she taught me a life lesson I won’t forget. I had cleared my calendar for the week that she was here, to be sure that I
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Recently, I came across a post, expressing the widely felt frustration that the needle isn’t moving for women with leadership ambitions. But blaming men doesn’t solve it. What makes a woman successful is being herself. ‘Ladies, “they” don’t want us behind the wheel. So, we better drive it like we stole it,’ the author wrote. But
Drive it like you stole it. Really? Read More »
‘What shall we do? ‘I don’t mind. Whatever you like.’ When I was younger, my conversations would often follow this pattern, me being the one not minding. One day, a friend gave me the well-meant advice to get some assertiveness training, because I seemed so insecure. But I didn’t feel like that at all. Nowadays, I sometimes
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When I put a few pages about Barbie in my latest book – We-mind vs Me-mind, published in July – I wanted to illustrate how what we’ve learned to value in ourselves and others is making a lot of people deeply unhappy and perpetuates the very situation we want to change. Unfortunately, the latest Barbie
Stereotypical Barbie is dead, long live the stereotype! Read More »
It sounds shocking: 90 percent of the world population, including women, is biased against women, according to the latest UN Gender Social Norms Index (GSNI). But this representation of the facts is profoundly skewed. Yes, there is a lot of room for improvement. But there is no reason to despair. And the solution is obvious:
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The poll to choose a title for my book on the We-mind and the Me-mind is closed. Several people asked an important question: If this book is meant for women, why wasn’t that part of the titles to choose from? Before I answer that, I’d like to say a deep-felt thank you to all who
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Here’s the synposis of my book for women who want impact. It answers these questions: What really trips us up? How to join and stay at the decision-making level? How to be valued and rewarded for what we contribute? Help me name it. Isn’t it astonishing that there are still so few women at the
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Today my Dad’s house is on the market. Once it’s sold, there will be no physical location any more to remember him, apart from his grave. My heart feels heavy. My Dad was very proud of the fact that, apart from putting up the walls and the roof, he had done practically everything himself. That
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After playing up for a while, my, no, our washing machine broke down. ‘I’ll take care of this,’ Hugh, my very supportive husband said. Within a few days a repairman showed up on our doorstep at 8 a.m.. Together they went to work. Half an hour later I was called to the scene. The moment
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