Category: Food for thought

having more money and accumulating wealth is crucial

Are women lucky to have less money than men?

Money is hardly ever what my clients view as their main problem. Indeed, often, interwoven in their stories are signs that they don’t care for it that much. And why should they? ‘Money is the source of all evil,’ they say in English. In French ‘money is the sinew of war.’ In Dutch a person …

Are women lucky to have less money than men? Read More »

what gives life meaning

What gives life meaning? Find your Ultimate Why

Springtime. Stormy skies and sunshine. Sweet scenting flowers everywhere. Life is bursting from the earth. It makes me feel so alive, but exactly in this season we lost a dear member of my husband’s family. My husband and I had the privilege to be present at his deathbed. We were holding his hand while his …

What gives life meaning? Find your Ultimate Why Read More »

To be the perfect woman

Recently I read an interview with a business woman who said that the best thing she ever did for herself was to let go of perfectionism. She was right. Self-oriented perfectionism can be debilitating. As a recovering perfectionist, I know this well. Wikipedia describes the condition as ‘a personality trait characterised by a person’s striving …

To be the perfect woman Read More »

Photo by Simon Matzinger on Unsplash

Fatherhood lowers chances of finding job

That working women get punished for being mothers is not new. However, when researchers of the Universities of Gent and Leuven, Belgium, sent out 960 job applications with different profiles, they found that children are bad news for working fathers too. Male candidates with children were invited 18% less often for job interviews. According to Professor Stijn …

Fatherhood lowers chances of finding job Read More »

Photo by Todd Diemer on Unsplash

How a look can change your life in one second flat. 

Last weekend I visited my step-grandchild, a delightful little boy of eight months old. We don’t see much of each other because we live far apart, so it took him several hours to get used to the new people in the house. He was gentle and adorable, sure, but I remember very distinctly the moment …

How a look can change your life in one second flat.  Read More »

More scientific proof that negative thoughts can kill you, from a Nobel Prize winner! 

Letting go of negativity not only makes you happier, it actually helps you live longer too. And healthier! This is the principle my practice is based upon, and here’s yet another piece of scientific proof. Elisabeth Blackburn, winner of the Nobel Prize for Medicine in 2009, has found that your mental patterns could be harming …

More scientific proof that negative thoughts can kill you, from a Nobel Prize winner!  Read More »

A fit of rage can make you feel empowered. Briefly. When anger festers, it makes you sick.

When I have a client with anger-issues, I usually encourage them to express it in order to get in touch with the cause of the sense of injustice that’s underneath. Through our work, eventually their anger melts away. We’ve all been taught that anger is bad, but it can be so satisfying to let it …

A fit of rage can make you feel empowered. Briefly. When anger festers, it makes you sick. Read More »

dangers of a good child

Have you always been a Good Child? High time to get BAD!  

Were you one of those children who always did their homework on time? Whose writing is neat; who kept their bedroom tidy? Were, or, are you perhaps still a little shy? Did you always want to help your parents? If so, you’re in danger! Source: The Dangers of the Good Child | The Book of …

Have you always been a Good Child? High time to get BAD!   Read More »