#MindBody

My Dad’s old suitcase. Let go of it?

My Dad has been resisting moving into a care home for years. He couldn’t let go of the world he created, even if it was less and less comfortable to be in. Last summer he couldn’t look after himself anymore. We, his daughters, took the tough decision to overrule his judgment. My youngest sister moved […]

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To be the perfect woman

Recently I read an interview with a business woman who said that the best thing she ever did for herself was to let go of perfectionism. She was right. Self-oriented perfectionism can be debilitating. As a recovering perfectionist, I know this well. Wikipedia describes the condition as ‘a personality trait characterised by a person’s striving

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How a look can change your life in one second flat. 

Last weekend I visited my step-grandchild, a delightful little boy of eight months old. We don’t see much of each other because we live far apart, so it took him several hours to get used to the new people in the house. He was gentle and adorable, sure, but I remember very distinctly the moment

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More scientific proof that negative thoughts can kill you, from a Nobel Prize winner! 

Letting go of negativity not only makes you happier, it actually helps you live longer too. And healthier! This is the principle my practice is based upon, and here’s yet another piece of scientific proof. Elisabeth Blackburn, winner of the Nobel Prize for Medicine in 2009, has found that your mental patterns could be harming

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Discrimination when pregnant no longer tolerated in the Netherlands

  In the two weeks since it’s possible, 550 Dutch women have reported being discriminated against at work because they’re pregnant. Companies who, for example, don’t extend a contract, will be punished. That’s good. But a radical change of mindset is required, that stops seeing children as the sole responsibility of women; that also stops

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A fit of rage can make you feel empowered. Briefly. When anger festers, it makes you sick.

When I have a client with anger-issues, I usually encourage them to express it in order to get in touch with the cause of the sense of injustice that’s underneath. Through our work, eventually their anger melts away. We’ve all been taught that anger is bad, but it can be so satisfying to let it

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dangers of a good child

Have you always been a Good Child? High time to get BAD!  

Were you one of those children who always did their homework on time? Whose writing is neat; who kept their bedroom tidy? Were, or, are you perhaps still a little shy? Did you always want to help your parents? If so, you’re in danger! Source: The Dangers of the Good Child | The Book of

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How to Stand in Your Power and Stop Giving It Away 

When you always push yourself to do more and to be better, it is impossible to stand in your power, to adopt that way of life in which you treat yourself and others with kindness, acceptance and love. Standing in your power gives you a gentle strength that comes from within, regardless of what others

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